What is child abuse?

What is child abuse?

Introduction

What is child abuse?

All parents upset their children sometimes. Saying `no' and managing difficult behaviour is an essential part of parenting. Tired or stressed parents can lose control and can do or say something they regret, and may even hurt the child. If this happens often enough, it can seriously harm the child. That is why abuse is defined in law. The Children Act 1989 states that abuse should be considered to have happened when someone's actions have caused a child to suffer significant harm to their health or development. Significant harm means that someone is: punishing a child too much hitting or shaking a child constantly criticising, threatening or rejecting a child sexually interfering with or assaulting a child not looking after a child - not giving them enough to eat, ignoring them, not playing or talking with them or not making sure that they are safe. Who abuses children? Children are usually abused by someone in their immediate family circle. This can include parents, brothers or sisters, babysitters or other familiar adults. It is quite unusual for strangers to be involved. How can you tell if a child is being abused? Physically abused children may be: watchful, cautious or wary of adults unable to play and be spontaneous aggressive or abusive bullying other children or being bullied themselves unable to concentrate, underachieving at school and avoiding activities that involve removal of clothes, e.g. sports having temper tantrums and behaving thoughtlessly lying, stealing, truanting from school and getting into trouble with the police finding it difficult to trust other people and make friends. Sexually abused children may: suddenly behave differently when the abuse starts think badly of themselves not look after themselves use sexual talk or ideas in their play that you would usually see only in someone much older withdraw into themselves or be secretive under-achieve at school start wetting or soiling themselves be unable to sleep behave in an inappropriately seductive or flirtatious way be fearful, frightened of physical contact become depressed and take an overdose or harm themselves run away, become promiscuous or take to prostitution drink too much or start using drugs develop an eating disorder such as anorexia or bulimia. Emotionally abused or neglected children may: be slow to learn to walk and talk be very passive and unable to be spontaneous have feeding problems and grow slowly find it hard to develop close relationships be over-friendly with strangers get on badly with other children of the same age be unable to play imaginatively think badly of themselves be easily distracted and do badly at school. It can be hard to detect long-standing abuse by an adult the child is close to. It is often very difficult for the child to tell anyone about it, as the abuser may have threatened to hurt them if they tell anybody. A child may not say anything because they think it is their fault, that no one will believe them or that they will be teased or punished. The child may even love the abusing adult, they want the abuse to stop, but they don't want the adult to go to prison or for the family to break up. If you suspect that a child is being abused, you may be able to help them to talk about it. Your local Social Services Child Protection Adviser will be able to offer more detailed advice. Where can I get help? First and foremost, the child must be protected from further abuse. Social Services will need to be involved to find out: what has happened if it is likely to happen again what steps are needed to protect the child. Child Protection After investigation, Social Services may be satisfied that the problems have been sorted out, and that the parents can now care for and protect the child properly. If so, they will remain involved only if the family wants their help. If Social Services are concerned that a child is being harmed, they will arrange a child protection case conference. The parents and professionals who know the child will be invited. A plan will be made to help the child and family and ensure that there is no further harm. Help to look after the child When a child has been abused within the family, the person involved is sometimes able to own up to what they have done and wants help. They can then be helped to look after their child better. Occasionally, the child may have to be taken away from the abusing adult because the risks of physical and emotional harm are too great. This can be for a short time, until things become safer, or may be permanent. Specialist treatment Many children need specialist treatment because of the abuse they have endured. Some receive help from family centres run by social services. If they are worried, depressed or being very difficult, the child and family might need help from the local child and adolescent mental health service. These specialists may work with the whole family, or with children and adolescents alone. Sometimes they work with teenagers in groups. Individual therapy can be especially helpful for children who have been sexually abused, or who have experienced severe trauma. Children who have suffered serious abuse or neglect can be difficult to care for, and the service can offer help and advice to parents and carers. References Carr, A. (ed) (2000) 'What Works with Children and Adolescents?' - A Critical Review of Psychological Interventions with Children, Adolescents and their Families. London: Brunner-Routledge. Jones, D. & Ramchandani, P. (1999) 'Child Sexual Abuse - Informing Practice from Research'. Oxford: Radcliffe Medical Press. Monck, E. & New, M. (1996) 'Sexually Abused Children and Adolescents who are Treated in Voluntary Community Services'. London: HMSO. Out of print. Sources of further information ChildLine provides a free and confidential service for children. Helpline 0800 1111;

http://www.childline.org.uk..

The NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children) has a number of useful publications. Child Protection Helpline 0800 800 500; Welsh textphone 0808 100 12524 (alternatively, the NSPCC run Asian helplines in five languages);

http://www.nspcc.org.uk. .

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